Tea and Sympathy - 2023
- Thread starter Robyn
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wow, you have been having a time of it haven't you. That sounds awful that your husband came down with. I am so glad to hear he getting over it. That's very scary and even more so when away from home and your regular doctors. Lets hope the rest of this year and the years to come are less eventful.
Vivi, so scary--especially when you were in Denmark. Glad that you're home and that your hubby is better. Sending both of you positive vibes...
RJMJ
Member
Hi Everyone...
[...SENSITIVE JOURNALING : ABOUT LOSS/CANCER/PAIN...]
It has been so long since I have been here...It has been a very long year...Between trying to recover from all of my own personal injuries from my life-threatening fall in the stairwell of our apartment building...I broke my neck & my arm...It has been months of long therapy & learning to walk again...& to be able to use my arm properly & move my neck...safely as to not re-injure them...Painful neuropathy in my legs & feet...Wearing a neck collar & arm brace...my Beloved Husband,Ray,helped me through all of it...Then...This happened...I am still in shock...I can't believe...my Beloved Husband...Ray of 26 years has passed away...from such a horrible unknown Stage 4 Cancer Diagnosis...I feel horribly scared,empty & all alone...
This has been the hardest time of my life...I thought I knew what pain was...Having gone through so much physical pain in my life...along with recovering from my near fatal accident back in November of last year...From which I am still struggling...My husband took ill & fell at our apartment & I had to call an ambulance for him...We had no idea he was so seriously ill...He was in the hospital for 9 days...He passed away on June 9th 2023...A date I will never forget...I still can't believe how quickly things had progressed...Ray spent his last days in Palliative Care at the hospital...Knowing what I know now...I was lucky that I had as much time with him as I did...Watching him get sicker was a grueling experience for me...All I did was cry...I was his wife & I would always be there for him...Just like he was always there for me...Long days & nights at the hospital...Sitting in a wheel chair...Holding his hand...Talking to him.....holding his hand...Cleaning his face & so on...He was in a lot of pain...It hurt me so much to see him like that...They kept him comfortable so he wasn't in pain anymore...His last days were excruciating for me,my Dad & the rest of his family & friends...Some couldn't come anymore because they couldn't bare to see him like that...he passed in his sleep...& the only peace & solace I got was knowing he wasn't gonna suffer anymore...I miss him so much it hurts...I am crying as I write this here now...
I have started to create some layouts again...in an effort to try to work out some of my grief through my art work...I call it Grief Scrapping Therapy...I have already created a series of layouts over at The Lilypad...Some others are posted on my FB page...3 of my other layouts have been recognized in the scrapping community...for which I'm shocked...1 layout [How To Try ]...was named PRIDE OF THE PAD for the last week of August by the Lilypad...Another layout [ROSES FOR MY BIRTHDAY] was spotlighted on the Lilypad blog for their monthly standout layouts for August...And a Third layout [RAINING IN MY HEART]...was chosen for a Gallery Standout : Fingerpointing for August 20th/2023...
I saw this challenge & was struck by an idea for a grief layout...The way I feel now...BLUE...It is raining in my heart every day...[I already created a layout called raining in my heart...]...This layout is all about the Rain of Sadness I Feel...And how I feel "Blue" inside my heart...
: Raining The Blues :
[...SENSITIVE JOURNALING : ABOUT LOSS/CANCER/PAIN...]
It has been so long since I have been here...It has been a very long year...Between trying to recover from all of my own personal injuries from my life-threatening fall in the stairwell of our apartment building...I broke my neck & my arm...It has been months of long therapy & learning to walk again...& to be able to use my arm properly & move my neck...safely as to not re-injure them...Painful neuropathy in my legs & feet...Wearing a neck collar & arm brace...my Beloved Husband,Ray,helped me through all of it...Then...This happened...I am still in shock...I can't believe...my Beloved Husband...Ray of 26 years has passed away...from such a horrible unknown Stage 4 Cancer Diagnosis...I feel horribly scared,empty & all alone...
This has been the hardest time of my life...I thought I knew what pain was...Having gone through so much physical pain in my life...along with recovering from my near fatal accident back in November of last year...From which I am still struggling...My husband took ill & fell at our apartment & I had to call an ambulance for him...We had no idea he was so seriously ill...He was in the hospital for 9 days...He passed away on June 9th 2023...A date I will never forget...I still can't believe how quickly things had progressed...Ray spent his last days in Palliative Care at the hospital...Knowing what I know now...I was lucky that I had as much time with him as I did...Watching him get sicker was a grueling experience for me...All I did was cry...I was his wife & I would always be there for him...Just like he was always there for me...Long days & nights at the hospital...Sitting in a wheel chair...Holding his hand...Talking to him.....holding his hand...Cleaning his face & so on...He was in a lot of pain...It hurt me so much to see him like that...They kept him comfortable so he wasn't in pain anymore...His last days were excruciating for me,my Dad & the rest of his family & friends...Some couldn't come anymore because they couldn't bare to see him like that...he passed in his sleep...& the only peace & solace I got was knowing he wasn't gonna suffer anymore...I miss him so much it hurts...I am crying as I write this here now...
I have started to create some layouts again...in an effort to try to work out some of my grief through my art work...I call it Grief Scrapping Therapy...I have already created a series of layouts over at The Lilypad...Some others are posted on my FB page...3 of my other layouts have been recognized in the scrapping community...for which I'm shocked...1 layout [How To Try ]...was named PRIDE OF THE PAD for the last week of August by the Lilypad...Another layout [ROSES FOR MY BIRTHDAY] was spotlighted on the Lilypad blog for their monthly standout layouts for August...And a Third layout [RAINING IN MY HEART]...was chosen for a Gallery Standout : Fingerpointing for August 20th/2023...
I saw this challenge & was struck by an idea for a grief layout...The way I feel now...BLUE...It is raining in my heart every day...[I already created a layout called raining in my heart...]...This layout is all about the Rain of Sadness I Feel...And how I feel "Blue" inside my heart...
: Raining The Blues :
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nemla
love a challenging challenge
@RJMJ So sorry for your loss.
Having just watched my sister in law pass away from A very long and very painful battle with cancer,I can only offer you my sincere condolences,and the very small comfort of knowing that his suffering was for a short time only.
Yours I know will be for a long while yet.
So keep scrapping, keep looking after your self ,and find joy in the care you gave to each other.
Having just watched my sister in law pass away from A very long and very painful battle with cancer,I can only offer you my sincere condolences,and the very small comfort of knowing that his suffering was for a short time only.
Yours I know will be for a long while yet.
So keep scrapping, keep looking after your self ,and find joy in the care you gave to each other.
Rhonda I am glad you put your message here so more of us can see it and understand what you have been going through,I did leave a message on your post with this link... I am glad you put it here. You have and are going through a terrible time with the accident and losing your husband,no words can be enough to help you over this sad time as you will be grieving for the loss of your hubby,we here can only sympathise and hope you will get better days,I know we are all a caring group and hope our words will help you.xxHi Everyone...
[...SENSITIVE JOURNALING : ABOUT LOSS/CANCER/PAIN...]
It has been so long since I have been here...It has been a very long year...Between trying to recover from all of my own personal injuries from my life-threatening fall in the stairwell of our apartment building...I broke my neck & my arm...It has been months of long therapy & learning to walk again...& to be able to use my arm properly & move my neck...safely as to not re-injure them...Painful neuropathy in my legs & feet...Wearing a neck collar & arm brace...my Beloved Husband,Ray,helped me through all of it...Then...This happened...I am still in shock...I can't believe...my Beloved Husband...Ray of 26 years has passed away...from such a horrible unknown Stage 4 Cancer Diagnosis...I feel horribly scared,empty & all alone...
This has been the hardest time of my life...I thought I knew what pain was...Having gone through so much physical pain in my life...along with recovering from my near fatal accident back in November of last year...From which I am still struggling...My husband took ill & fell at our apartment & I had to call an ambulance for him...We had no idea he was so seriously ill...He was in the hospital for 9 days...He passed away on June 9th 2023...A date I will never forget...I still can't believe how quickly things had progressed...Ray spent his last days in Palliative Care at the hospital...Knowing what I know now...I was lucky that I had as much time with him as I did...Watching him get sicker was a grueling experience for me...All I did was cry...I was his wife & I would always be there for him...Just like he was always there for me...Long days & nights at the hospital...Sitting in a wheel chair...Holding his hand...Talking to him.....holding his hand...Cleaning his face & so on...He was in a lot of pain...It hurt me so much to see him like that...They kept him comfortable so he wasn't in pain anymore...His last days were excruciating for me,my Dad & the rest of his family & friends...Some couldn't come anymore because they couldn't bare to see him like that...he passed in his sleep...& the only peace & solace I got was knowing he wasn't gonna suffer anymore...I miss him so much it hurts...I am crying as I write this here now...
I have started to create some layouts again...in an effort to try to work out some of my grief through my art work...I call it Grief Scrapping Therapy...I have already created a series of layouts over at The Lilypad...Some others are posted on my FB page...3 of my other layouts have been recognized in the scrapping community...for which I'm shocked...1 layout [How To Try ]...was named PRIDE OF THE PAD for the last week of August by the Lilypad...Another layout [ROSES FOR MY BIRTHDAY] was spotlighted on the Lilypad blog for their monthly standout layouts for August...And a Third layout [RAINING IN MY HEART]...was chosen for a Gallery Standout : Fingerpointing for August 20th/2023...
I saw this challenge & was struck by an idea for a grief layout...The way I feel now...BLUE...It is raining in my heart every day...[I already created a layout called raining in my heart...]...This layout is all about the Rain of Sadness I Feel...And how I feel "Blue" inside my heart...
: Raining The Blues :
Diane's Art
Esteemed Senior Member
Praying for you Helga.
BrightEyes
Esteemed Senior Member
@RJMJ So sorry to hear of what all you have been through this past year. 
Yes, "Grief Scrapping Therapy.." does help. It allows us to express feelings we have that at times are overwhelming. It also is a way to sharing memories of our beloved husbands. It has been almost 6 years since my husband died and I still am doing Grief Scrapping about our lives together.
Yes, "Grief Scrapping Therapy.." does help. It allows us to express feelings we have that at times are overwhelming. It also is a way to sharing memories of our beloved husbands. It has been almost 6 years since my husband died and I still am doing Grief Scrapping about our lives together.
Vivi, I am so sorry to here that intended relaxing break turned out so badly. I am glad that your husband is much better now. Now you both need to get your stress levels down again.
Rhonda, so sorry to read about your injuries and the loss of your husband and hope that grief scrapping will help you during this very sad and difficult time.Hi Everyone...
[...SENSITIVE JOURNALING : ABOUT LOSS/CANCER/PAIN...]
It has been so long since I have been here...It has been a very long year...Between trying to recover from all of my own personal injuries from my life-threatening fall in the stairwell of our apartment building...I broke my neck & my arm...It has been months of long therapy & learning to walk again...& to be able to use my arm properly & move my neck...safely as to not re-injure them...Painful neuropathy in my legs & feet...Wearing a neck collar & arm brace...my Beloved Husband,Ray,helped me through all of it...Then...This happened...I am still in shock...I can't believe...my Beloved Husband...Ray of 26 years has passed away...from such a horrible unknown Stage 4 Cancer Diagnosis...I feel horribly scared,empty & all alone...
This has been the hardest time of my life...I thought I knew what pain was...Having gone through so much physical pain in my life...along with recovering from my near fatal accident back in November of last year...From which I am still struggling...My husband took ill & fell at our apartment & I had to call an ambulance for him...We had no idea he was so seriously ill...He was in the hospital for 9 days...He passed away on June 9th 2023...A date I will never forget...I still can't believe how quickly things had progressed...Ray spent his last days in Palliative Care at the hospital...Knowing what I know now...I was lucky that I had as much time with him as I did...Watching him get sicker was a grueling experience for me...All I did was cry...I was his wife & I would always be there for him...Just like he was always there for me...Long days & nights at the hospital...Sitting in a wheel chair...Holding his hand...Talking to him.....holding his hand...Cleaning his face & so on...He was in a lot of pain...It hurt me so much to see him like that...They kept him comfortable so he wasn't in pain anymore...His last days were excruciating for me,my Dad & the rest of his family & friends...Some couldn't come anymore because they couldn't bare to see him like that...he passed in his sleep...& the only peace & solace I got was knowing he wasn't gonna suffer anymore...I miss him so much it hurts...I am crying as I write this here now...
I have started to create some layouts again...in an effort to try to work out some of my grief through my art work...I call it Grief Scrapping Therapy...I have already created a series of layouts over at The Lilypad...Some others are posted on my FB page...3 of my other layouts have been recognized in the scrapping community...for which I'm shocked...1 layout [How To Try ]...was named PRIDE OF THE PAD for the last week of August by the Lilypad...Another layout [ROSES FOR MY BIRTHDAY] was spotlighted on the Lilypad blog for their monthly standout layouts for August...And a Third layout [RAINING IN MY HEART]...was chosen for a Gallery Standout : Fingerpointing for August 20th/2023...
I saw this challenge & was struck by an idea for a grief layout...The way I feel now...BLUE...It is raining in my heart every day...[I already created a layout called raining in my heart...]...This layout is all about the Rain of Sadness I Feel...And how I feel "Blue" inside my heart...
: Raining The Blues :
BrightEyes
Esteemed Senior Member
I am sure that many of you noticed I was MIA most of this year. In addition to the problems with my shoulders/hands (which is still an on-going issue), I was down with very bad back pain for 4 months... which still comes and goes. I ended up having different relatives taking care of me full time from March until July. Finally able to be by myself again, thank goodness. The bad thing is that the hands don't like typing so that limits my commenting still. Hope you understand why I am not commenting on LOs right now.
I am able to use the mouse so have finally started scrapping again. Yes... that is why you are seeing several LOs from me this month.
I am able to use the mouse so have finally started scrapping again. Yes... that is why you are seeing several LOs from me this month.
Cheryln
Senior Member
Rhonda, I'm SO sorry for your loss and have been following your scrapping therapy. I also scrap for any kind of therapy, and it really helps me. I'm so glad that you're able to express your grief and loss through this wonderful art. Sending you lots of cyber love and hugs.
Kay, you HAVE had quite of time of it haven't you! Back pain is certainly no fun. It's really lovely to see you back doing some scrapping again, and don't worry about commenting, just do whatever your body allows you to do.
nemla
love a challenging challenge
@BrightEyes Kay I can not even imagine both coping with pain and the change to rutines ,and having to have family in the house constantly to help out, but I am so glad they were there for you. I am sending good vibes to your continued good health.
nemla
love a challenging challenge
Ok,so this seems to be my personal thread for the year.
It is 4in the morning here,I can't sleep,and I am worried sick. 12 days ago my husband fell of a ladder. (High ) waited to long to realize something was seriously wrong,so did not get treatment until 14 hours later.
Apart from bruises and a good bashing....anyway the upshot of it is that he broke his rib ,collapsed his lung ,(he has bad lungs at the best of times ,this is just so fustrating,) broke his wrist,broke a small bone in his face,and a day later developed a blood cloth in his good lung....
His lung would not re inflate for a week....because there was trapped air around it, It is still not fully inflated,but they took him of the oxygen , though he still has pipes in his side to get the extra air out,.
The blood clot has now dispersed ,thank God
They are keeping him in hospital for at least another 2 days.... Maybe longer,though there is not much they can do. The worry is that the lung will never open fully.
It has been one hell of a year,and I really just want to cry for a week. Totally fed up with putting on a brave face ...
It is 4in the morning here,I can't sleep,and I am worried sick. 12 days ago my husband fell of a ladder. (High ) waited to long to realize something was seriously wrong,so did not get treatment until 14 hours later.
Apart from bruises and a good bashing....anyway the upshot of it is that he broke his rib ,collapsed his lung ,(he has bad lungs at the best of times ,this is just so fustrating,) broke his wrist,broke a small bone in his face,and a day later developed a blood cloth in his good lung....
His lung would not re inflate for a week....because there was trapped air around it, It is still not fully inflated,but they took him of the oxygen , though he still has pipes in his side to get the extra air out,.
The blood clot has now dispersed ,thank God
They are keeping him in hospital for at least another 2 days.... Maybe longer,though there is not much they can do. The worry is that the lung will never open fully.
It has been one hell of a year,and I really just want to cry for a week. Totally fed up with putting on a brave face ...
BrightEyes
Esteemed Senior Member
Oh, Vivi, how scary that is! So sorry about your DH's fall and injuries. Sending healing thoughts for him and caring thoughts for you as you take care of him once he is home. 